related February 2014

6 Signs You’re In A Healthy Relationship


6 Signs You’re In A Healthy Relationship
You’re in love, that you’re sure of, but just how do you know you’re in a healthy, adult relationship? If you’ve had your fair share of partnerships in the past, you’ll know identifying the green lights of a relationship are just as important as the red ones that signal it’s time to pump the breaks. No relationship is perfect, but recognizing all the elements that exist at the heart of a happy couple is sure to spell out success for your future together. The following six signs will help you establish whether your relationship is on track for smooth sailing ahead.

You’re able to spend time apart

Sure you’ll both want to spend every free moment together, but you both should understand and respect that you each need your own space. Even if it’s just to take a step back and spend some time alone at home, acknowledging that you each have individual interests and needs is key to a happy partnership. Healthy individuals are able to understand the balance of a happy medium, and are able to be themselves outside of the relationship with friends, family members and activities, without the other person tagging along. In a healthy relationship, you shouldn’t ever feel suffocated and controlled by your partner, and you should be able to take some “me” time without the other feeling insecure, jealous or hurt. If you completely depend on each other to do everything together, your relationship will quickly become co-dependent — and not to mention boring — and one of you is left feeling resentful at some point. It’s totally normal, natural and okay for the two of you to be apart, which is why trust is so important.

You trust each other completely

This may seem like a no-brainer, but establishing and maintaining trust is a fundamental building block for a healthy, loving relationship. Both partners should have faith in one another and feel totally safe and secure within their partnership. This person is the one you’re choosing to spend most of your time with — and possibly the rest of your life — so you need to be 100% positive you’re able to trust them wholeheartedly and genuinely. If not, your relationship will be riddled with insecurities and issues it won’t be able to survive, and it’s the complete opposite of what should make up a successful relationship.

You’re able to manage conflict well

Of course, contrary to what most people might believe, a healthy relationship doesn’t mean you’re going to be and feel happy with each other 100% of the time. Just like in life, in relationships there will always be issues you just can’t avoid, but it’s how the two of you deal with these issues as a couple that is crucial for your life together. You should be able to resolve your differences without blame or disrespect for the other person, and instead of avoiding arguments and sweeping issues under the rug, healthy couples are able to know just how to handle them and sort things out when they do inevitably surface.

You’re able to communicate effectively

When you’re in love, you want to communicate everything to your partner, no matter how big or small. These details make up your daily lives together and sharing them strengthens your emotional bond with one another. A balanced relationship means feeling comfortable sharing just about anything and everything without fear of judgment or letting personal feelings get in the way. You should be able to listen and support your partner in what they’re telling you to learn more about their thoughts, opinions and emotions to allow them to showcase their true selves.

You have mutual respect for each other

A true, healthy sign of a stable relationship is the fact that you have mutual respect for one another. No two people are alike, and while you may share common interests or personality traits, individuality is what makes us interesting. The perfect partnership means you can understand and respect each other’s differences — and maybe even like them a little? — without calling the whole thing off. Allowing the other person to be themselves, just means you respect that they’re different from you, and you should be able to appreciate a different perspective on things. How boring would it be to date someone who was exactly like you? Remember the rule is true, opposites attract, it’s a natural law.

You’re able to forgive one another

Whether in friendships, family or romantic love, loyalty and forgiveness is another key building block in maintaining a happy and healthy relationship. Even to the very best of us, mistakes can happen and nobody is perfect. All of us are guilty, at some point or another, of having ups and downs, and even moments we’re not particularly proud of. If you can accept and appreciate that your partner is human and it’s only natural to not be perfect, then your relationship will succeed. Even at your worst moments, your partner should be able to stand by and support you throughout, and they should forgive when you’re truly, genuinely sorry.

Cynthia Osokogu’s murder: Defendants had it all planned – Witness tells court

A prosecution witness on Thursday told a Lagos High Court at Igbosere, that the alleged murderers of face book lover, Cynthia Osokogu, had it all planned, a few days before she was killed.
The prosecution witness, Joseph Edo, told the court how Olisaeloka Ezike (second defendant), went to Agboju Market at the instance of Okumo Nwabufo (first defendant) and purchased a chain and a cellotape, which they used in ‘killing’ Cynthia.
Led in Evidence by the state Attorney-General, Ade Ipaye, Edo told the court: “it is the defendants’ stock-in-trade to invite women to hotels, drug and rape them.’’
He told the court which was presided over by Justice Olabisi Akinlade, that Okumo and Ezike had it in mind to kill Cynthia on her arrival in Lagos.
“From my investigation, I discovered that the first defendant sent the second defendant to Agboju Market to buy the instruments they used for the operation, a few days before Cynthia was killed.
“The second defendant (Ezike), after getting the items and while still at the market, used his phone to snap them and forwarded the picture to the first defendant (Nwabufo).
“He equally sent Nwabufo a text message from his phone asking if this was the chain and cellotape you asked me to buy.
“Nwabufo replied Ezike that it will be okay for the job, the messages are all in their phones,’’ Edo said.
The witness also told the court that he discovered that the third defendant, Orji Osita, who is a pharmacist, aided the primary suspects to commit the crime by supplying them the Rohypnol used in subduing the deceased, before they carried out the killing.
He said the fourth defendant, Nonso Ezike, dishonestly received Cynthia’s Blackberry cell phone from his elder brother, who is the second defendant.
  discovered that it was not the first phone he (Nonso) bought from the second defendant and he has knowledge of the first and second defendants stock-in-trade.
“They specialise in bringing ladies into hotel rooms, enticing them with one or two things and then rape them,’’ Edo said.
Earlier, Justice Akinlade admitted in evidence the confessional statements and video evidence made at the Festac Police Station on Aug. 20, 2012 by Nwabufo and Ezike, admitting the murder.
In a ruling delivered on the admissibility of the statements made by the first and second defendants, after they alleged that their statements were gotten under duress, Justice Akinlade held that their allegations before the court were concocted as there was no evidence to buttress their claims.
Akinlade added that from her examination of the confessional statements, the handwritings of the defendant did not show they were under torture to write them.
“The defendants were questioned in an open place and were also asked by the Area Commander if they made their statements voluntarily, which they attested in the affirmative.
“Moreover, from the video evidence, the defendants looked well and untortured.
“It was when the Area Commander realised their narration was the same that he requested for a cameraman to video them,” she said.
She added that the prosecution had proven its case in the trial-within-trial to determine the admissibility of the confessional statements made by the first and second defendants.
“I hereby admit the confessional statements and video evidence made by the defendants and tendered by the prosecution as exhibits’’ Akinlade held.
Akinlade adjourned the case till March 13, for continuation of trial.

(NAN)

3 Reasons Why Your Spouse Needs a Partner, Not a Helper

3 Reasons Why Your Spouse Needs a Partner, Not a HelperWhen Lamar and I met, I had two kids. After he proposed, we had a conversation where I told him exactly what I was looking for in a husband. I told him I needed a partner who would share in all things family-related: from taking care of the kids to doing housework. I wasn’t interested in being married to a person who “helped out” from time to time. Luckily, Lamar did not take his ring and run for the hills from this ready-made family he was about to join. Instead, he took on the challenge and became the best husband, father, and, yes, partner that I could ask for.

Hear me out: there is nothing wrong with helping your spouse. Being helpful is a good thing! However, you should not be satisfied with being just a helper or someone who assists.  Your spouse needs a partner — someone who shares in the responsibilities of taking care of the home, the kids, the finances, and the overall health of your marriage.

The Difference Between Being a Partner and a Helper

A partner has a stake in the game — meaning he or she has ownership. A partner is not going to wait until someone asks for help. A partner has a vested interest in seeing the marriage and family succeed.  A helper, on the other hand, will assist but does not take on ownership. A helper can decide to participate or opt-out because it’s not their responsibility, after all. A partner will step up to the plate whether he or she feels like it or not.

Why Your Spouse Needs a Partner
- Your spouse needs a partner because there’s nothing better than knowing that you have someone to share this journey called life with.
- Your spouse needs a partner because as you’re building this life together, you both share an equal role in its growth and the responsibilities that go along with it.
- Your spouse needs a partner because it’s incredibly lonely and stressful when you are not sure that they will always be there with their support.

How a Partnership Can Set You Up for Long-Term Success
Being partners does not mean you share every task or responsibility 50-50. There are things that Lamar handles, and there are things that I handle. But as partners, we never allow the other person to be stressed or overwhelmed. We have each other’s backs. And when I fall short, he is there to carry me. I have had helpers in the past. It was nice at times, but other times it was nerve-racking and full of uncertainty.

 In the end, there is nothing that feels more comfortable, secure, or safe than knowing that your spouse is your partner.

  #Ronnie Tyler


15 Questions Every Parent Should Ask When the Kids Get Home from School


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With roughly 180 days in a school year, how could all of them be ‘good’? Yet on any given day, if you were to ask any one of my four kids: “How was school today?” They would answer: “Good.” So, if you want to really know what’s going on in school, you have to dig deeper by asking more questions. But, what types of questions should you ask? How can you get to the bottom of what’s really happening between the opening and closing school bells?
We’ve compiled a list of 15 questions that you can ask your kids that will hopefully give you a better feel of what’s happening in their world.

1.  How was school?

You already know the answer is going to be good, so this is your opportunity to dig deeper.

2. Why was it _______?

This really forces them to think about the day and explain to you why it was good. And if it really was not good, they will tell you … well it wasn’t really good, but it was …

3. Did anything exciting happen today?

I love to hear about the things that excite them about school. Whether it was a delicious treat, an interesting visitor to the class, or a funny joke.

4. What did you learn about today?

Find out which topics they are learning in each subject: What’s going on in Math? What about English? What are you doing in P.E.?

5. Do you have any homework?

Not every kid is the same. Some of them will do their homework whether the parent asks about it or not. Then there are others that subscribe to the “don’t ask don’t tell” philosophy of homework. Out of my four kids, I had one that subscribed to this philosophy … so it is possible that your child may not do their homework if they are not supervised.

6. Do you have any tests coming up?

In my house, our motto is practice makes perfect. We study for tests … all of them. If you don’t study, then I expect an A. I am teaching them how to study when they are young, because it will be required when they are older. They will have to study in high school and college when the courses get harder. They will also have to know how to prepare for projects and assignments in their careers too.

7. What did you eat for lunch?

I discovered that my daughters like peas (and other foods) by asking them what they ate for lunch.

8. Did you like it?

It is hilarious to hear them describe the school lunch sometimes. Sometimes they say certain things are so delicious … and there are others times when they say it’s disgusting. But the way they explain it and the expressions on their faces are hilarious. Also, I take this opportunity to ask them if they still have money on their lunch accounts.

9.  Who are your best buddies in class?

It’s important to know whether or not your kids are getting along with their classmates.

10. Who do you play with on the playground?

I also ask questions about the playground. Who are you playing with? What games do you play? This is also when I learn about bullying and any problems that the kids may be having with their friends. This is my opportunity to support my child, to talk over how they should respond, or to get involved as needed.

11. Who is your best friend?

Do you know your kid’s best friend’s name?

12. What is your favorite subject?

My daughter absolutely loves to read, and she is a straight-A student. But, her favorite subject is P.E. She told me she does not like math, and she giggles about it because she knows that was my favorite subject in school. Then, I jokingly tell her that she cannot be my daughter if she doesn’t like math.

13. Can I see your agenda?

Our schools give every student an agenda book where they are supposed to write their daily assignments, and the teachers will leave you notes about their behavior or upcoming activities.

14. Do you have any papers for me?

Sometimes the kids “forget” to give you papers from the teachers. This question will jog their memory. However, a better question is: Can you please go get your book bag?

15. What happened?

If your child comes home with a note from the teacher or with a story about a concerning event, you need to understand your child’s perspective on the event.
Our kids need to know that we are invested in them and in their academic success. Take some time to talk to your kids each day about what is going on in school and help them with whatever they need, whether it’s help with homework or help with a social issue with their friends or teachers.


What questions do you ask your kids when they arrive home from school? Do your kids have “good” days everyday too?

#Ronnie Tyler

Man Die While Having Sex With Prostitute In Aba



A man, identified as Ogadinma Chukwu, has lost his life while having sex with a commercial sex worker at a popular brothel located on St. Michael’s Road, Aba, Abia State.Sources said the deceased, whom they alleged to be a regular visitor to the brothel, died while romping the prostitute. It was gathered that immediately Chukwu slumped and died, the prostitute contacted her colleagues and the manager of the brothel who moved his corpse to a sanitary lane at the back of the brothel.As a result of the development, shop owners around the area quickly closed business for fear of police arrest.Those who spoke anonymously to our reporter disclosed that some staff of the brothel at about 5 p.m. brought out the corpse through their back door, dropped it at the sanitary lane and disappeared.
On a visit to the area, the brothel was deserted as people were gathering at the adjoining St. Michael’s Road by York Street junction and Hospital Road. A cross section of sympathisers said the deceased might have died of a cardiac arrest or exhaustion as white foam gushed out of his mouth. Policemen from the Aba Central Police Station, who conducted a search at the scene, recovered an ATM card, a cheque book, cash of over N200,000 and a Man O’ War Association of Nigeria identity card, bearing the name, Ogadinma Chukwu.Contacted, the Commander, Man O’ War Association, Aba, Uche Egbuziem, identified Ogadinma Chukwu as a former member of the association, stressing that the deceased and some other members of the group still use their old identity cards.Abia Police Public Relations Officer, PPRO, ASP Geoffrey Ogbonna, could not be reached for comments at press time, but a senior police officer said the corpse had been deposited in a mortuary.He said an autopsy would be conducted to determine the cause of the man’s death. 

#CKN

Will My Friend’s Married Lover Leave His Wife for Her?

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I have a confession to make; I was almost the other woman. I say almost because we only sneaked in a kiss or two. I wouldn't let myself be his mistress. And neither did the Universe.

One weekend when it all began he invited me to his house in the Poconos. It was a family house, he said. I was sure he had spent many summer weekends in that same cabin with his fiancée. They lived together at the time of this semi-affair. Yet my heart skipped a beat; my palms sweated; my body shook from excitement — every cliché in the book — at just the thought of it, of us. But it never happened. Suddenly, his car was out of commission. It had been in the shop overnight. I thank God every day for that busted engine.

Still, I reminisce about us. From time to time, I wonder, what if? He wasn't married yet. He didn't have kids with his fiancée. He said he'd leave her. Would it be so terrible if it were all true? If I would have stuck with him and waited like he asked me to, could I have been the exception to the rule? 

A friend of mine may just be. She is currently dating a married man that has no children. He says he loves her. He says he is going to leave his wife for her. He spends days with her as if they were a legitimate couple. He has even told his friends and family members about her. She believes it will all work out. I actually do too. Mostly because it is easier to break up a marriage when there are no children involved. Yes, people still get hurt. But the bond of conceiving a child together, and the children themselves, is hard to break and leave behind. 

So maybe my friend is the exception to the rule. In a weird way I am rooting for her and her love. I am living vicariously through her. I also want her to be happy, even if it means having a love story that began with an affair. Only they know what they have. And the Universe. Here's hoping their ignition doesn't bust. 

Would you ever date a marriage or engaged man — if you were convinced it was true love?

#Momtastic

5 WAYS TO PREDICT YOUR BABY’S GENDER



We’ve all heard people say that they can predict a baby’s gender without using technology. There’s everything from old wives tales, grandparent superstition or misinformed friends that believe that they know the sex of an unborn child by using their “special” method of prediction. One of the best predictors of baby gender is an ultrasound and even that method isn’t always 100 percent accurate. The truth is that there is only one real way to know baby gender, seeing for yourself after the birth. However, it can be fun to guess. Here are 5 ways to “predict” a baby’s gender.

1. Doppler Radar- If your OB tells you that the baby’s heart rate is above 140, start thinking of girl names.

2. Chinese predictor- The Chinese birth chart uses your age at conception and the month you conceived to determine the gender of the baby.

3. Up top or down low- If you’re carrying high, grab some hair bows. If your belly is hanging a bit low, go buy some footballs.

4. Puberty during pregnancy- If you are breaking out like crazy, the word is that you are having a girl.

5. Use your keys- Have someone put a key on the front of your belly and grab it. If you grab the key by the round end, break of the blue!

#BCK

The 5 Rules For Hookups When You're A Single Parent

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Should you introduce your partner to the child?

From one single mom to another, I totally understand your, ahem, physical urges to connect with an adult and not just your vibrator. I also know from experience that dating as a single parent is the calculus I got a D in, in high school—it's absurd. Where do you meet someone? Do you have a sitter? How much does the sitter cost? Like you have time to date. And those are just a few roadblocks when it comes to single parent dating. So what's a single mom to do? Shy readers, stop reading …

Get a friend with benefits. But follow these rules if you want to have fun and eat your cake too!

1. Don't introduce your child
HE ISN'T YOUR BOYFRIEND—he's your boy toy (and that's a hot thing, ladies!). There is no reason for your kid to get to know him because he's for you! You're not going on a family trip to the zoo, or watching Cars together. He's slipping in when your kid is fast asleep for a midnight romp, or you're meeting him on your lunch break for some invigorating out of the ordinary day sex (try it!). Be clear with yourself and your guy—you're friends with benefits—he's not your kid's friend!

2. Protect yourself
You're ALREADY a single parent. Feel like adding more potty training to that? Another round of daycare tuition? Yeah, no. And guess what? Ding, ding, ding—He doesn't want to have and raise a child with you! Get yourself on the pill to prevent pregnancy and hello, use a condom-use a condom-use a condom, to protect yourself from STDs. I'm not saying he has any, but I am saying he's not your boyfriend and you're not even dating. That means he's possibly dating and shagging other women—which by the way is allowed (and you can't get all psycho mad about it!). Get it? Good. This brings me to rule #3. 

3. Girl, don't fall in love
If you made the decision to have a friend with benefits then please set your head and heart straight from day one. This guy is not taking you to dinner or buying you flowers. I mean, he might, but he prob expects a BJ for dessert. If he texts you mid-day to tell you he's thinking about you—he's thinking about you naked—or sitting on his face—not reading a book while he caresses your hair and your kid builds blocks by the warm fire. 

4. Be prepared for him to break it off
A friend-with-benefits has its shelf life and when it expires, let it go like old yogurt. Whether he met someone else or isn't down to just have sex anymore, you have to be just as cool with his exit as you were with his entrance. Feeling bummed? Read rule 5.

5. It's OK to fall in love
Face it, sex just isn't physical—it's emotional too. If you start to have real feelings, want to make him a sandwich, have his babies and sit on a porch with him when you're 80, then step on the breaks and fast. Just put on your big girl panties (or lacy thong) and tell him how you feel. He might feel the same way and that's awesome! Alas, if he doesn't, let him go! If you keep having sex with him, kissing him and cuddling with him you'll fall deeper in love with someone who is not in love with you. Or your kid! And remember, your kid is the most important factor when it comes to bringing a guy around. You're a package deal!  

 By Momtastic

2014 Oscar Awards: 'American Hustle, 'Gravity' and '12 Years a Slave Leads

Who do you think will win the Best Picture at this year's Oscars?



“American Hustle” and “Gravity” led nominations for the 86th Academy Awards with 10 each, followed by nine for “12 Years a Slave.” The trio will compete for best picture in a category that this year has nine entrants, also including “Captain Phillips,” “Dallas Buyers Club,” “Her,” “Nebraska,” “Philomena,” and “The Wolf of Wall Street.”

There were 289 eligible pics with a total of 6,028 Academy voters. The largest single branch is actors, with 1176 (19% of the total); the smallest being casting directors, with 54 members (less than 1%).

The nominations were announced at 5:38 a.m. at the Academy’s Beverly Hills headquarters. Academy of Motion Picture Arts & Sciences prexy Cheryl Boone Isaacs and Chris Hemsworth made the announcement.

Balloting runs Feb. 14-25. Awards will be handed out at ceremonies at the Dolby Theatre March 2, telecast live by ABC-TV.

THE FULL LIST OF NOMINEES:

BEST PICTURE

“12 Years a Slave”
“American Hustle”
“Captain Phillips”
“Dallas Buyers Club”
“Gravity”
“Her”
“Nebraska”
“Philomena”
“The Wolf of Wall Street”

BEST DIRECTOR

David O. Russell, “American Hustle”
Alfonso Cuaron, “Gravity”
Alexander Payne, “Nebraska”
Steve McQueen, “12 Years a Slave”
Martin Scorsese, “The Wolf of Wall Street”

BEST ACTOR

Christian Bale, “American Hustle”
Bruce Dern, “Nebraska”
Leonardo DiCaprio, “The Wolf of Wall Street”
Chiwetel Ejiofor, “12 Years a Slave”
Matthew McConaughey, “Dallas Buyers Club”

BEST ACTRESS

Amy Adams, “American Hustle”
Cate Blanchett, “Blue Jasmine”
Sandra Bullock, “Gravity”
Judi Dench, “Philomena”
Meryl Streep, “August: Osage County”

BEST ORIGINAL SCREENPLAY

“American Hustle” – Written by Eric Warren Singer and David O. Russell
“Blue Jasmine” – Written by Woody Allen
“Her” – Written by Spike Jonze
“Nebraska” – Written by Bob Nelson
“Dallas Buyers Club” – Written by Craig Borten & Melisa Wallack

BEST ADAPTED SCREENPLAY

“Before Midnight” – Written by Richard Linklater, Julie Delpy, Ethan Hawke
“Captain Phillips” – Screenplay by Billy Ray
“Philomena” – Screenplay by Steve Coogan and Jeff Pope
“12 Years a Slave” – Screenplay by John Ridley
“The Wolf of Wall Street” – Screenplay by Terence Winter

BEST SUPPORTING ACTRESS

Lupita Nyong’o, “12 Years a Slave”
Jennifer Lawrence, “American Hustle”
June Squibb, “Nebraska”
Julia Roberts, “August: Osage County”
Sally Hawkins, “Blue Jasmine”

BEST SUPPORTING ACTOR

Barkhad Abdi, “Captain Phillips”
Bradley Cooper, “American Hustle”
Michael Fassbender, “12 Years a Slave”
Jonah Hill, “The Wolf of Wall Street”
Jared Leto, “Dallas Buyers Club”

BEST ANIMATED FILM

“The Croods”
“Despicable Me 2”
“Ernest & Celestine”
“Frozen”
“The Wind Rises”

BEST CINEMATOGRAPHY

“The Grandmaster”
“Gravity”
“Inside Llewyn Davis”
“Nebraska”
“Prisoners”

BEST COSTUME DESIGN

Michael Wilkinson, “American Hustle”
William Chang Suk Ping, “The Grandmaster”
Catherine Martin, “The Great Gatsby”
Michael O’Connor, “The Invisible Woman”
Patricia Norris, “12 Years a Slave”

BEST DOCUMENTARY FEATURE

“The Act of Killing”Joshua Oppenheimer and Signe Byrge Sørensen
“Cutie and the Boxer” Zachary Heinzerling and Lydia Dean Pilcher
“Dirty Wars” Richard Rowley and Jeremy Scahill
“The Square” Jehane Noujaim and Karim Amer
“20 Feet from Stardom” Nominees to be determined

BEST DOCUMENTARY SHORT SUBJECT

“CaveDigger” Jeffrey Karoff
“Facing Fear” Jason Cohen
“Karama Has No Walls” Sara Ishaq
“The Lady in Number 6: Music Saved My Life” Malcolm Clarke and Nicholas Reed
“Prison Terminal: The Last Days of Private Jack Hall” Edgar Barens

BEST FILM EDITING

“American Hustle” Jay Cassidy, Crispin Struthers and Alan Baumgarten
“Captain Phillips” Christopher Rouse
“Dallas Buyers Club” John Mac McMurphy and Martin Pensa
“Gravity” Alfonso Cuarón and Mark Sanger
“12 Years a Slave” Joe Walker

BEST FOREIGN LANGUAGE FILM

“The Broken Circle Breakdown” Belgium
“The Great Beauty” Italy
“The Hunt” Denmark
“The Missing Picture” Cambodia
“Omar” Palestine

BEST MAKEUP AND HAIRSTYLING

“Dallas Buyers Club” Adruitha Lee and Robin Mathews
“Jackass Presents: Bad Grandpa” Stephen Prouty
“The Lone Ranger” Joel Harlow and Gloria Pasqua-Casny

BEST ORIGINAL SCORE

John Williams, “The Book Thief”
Steven Price, “Gravity”
William Butler and Owen Pallett, “Her”
Alexandre Desplat, “Philomena”
Thomas Newman, “Saving Mr. Banks”

BEST ORIGINAL SONG

“Alone Yet Not Alone” from “Alone Yet Not Alone”
Music by Bruce Broughton; Lyric by Dennis Spiegel

“Happy” from “Despicable Me 2”
Music and Lyric by Pharrell Williams

“Let It Go” from “Frozen”
Music and Lyric by Kristen Anderson-Lopez and Robert Lopez

“The Moon Song” from “Her”
Music by Karen O; Lyric by Karen O and Spike Jonze

“Ordinary Love” from “Mandela: Long Walk to Freedom”
Music by Paul Hewson, Dave Evans, Adam Clayton and Larry Mullen; Lyric by Paul Hewson

BEST PRODUCTION DESIGN

“American Hustle”
Production Design: Judy Becker; Set Decoration: Heather Loeffler

“Gravity”
Production Design: Andy Nicholson; Set Decoration: Rosie Goodwin and Joanne Woollard

“The Great Gatsby”
Production Design: Catherine Martin; Set Decoration: Beverley Dunn

“Her”
Production Design: K.K. Barrett; Set Decoration: Gene Serdena

“12 Years a Slave”
Production Design: Adam Stockhausen; Set Decoration: Alice Baker

BEST ANIMATED SHORT FILM

“Feral” Daniel Sousa and Dan Golden
“Get a Horse!” Lauren MacMullan and Dorothy McKim
“Mr. Hublot” Laurent Witz and Alexandre Espigares
“Possessions” Shuhei Morita
“Room on the Broom” Max Lang and Jan Lachauer

BEST LIVE ACTION SHORT FILM

“Aquel No Era Yo (That Wasn’t Me)” Esteban Crespo
“Avant Que De Tout Perdre (Just before Losing Everything)” Xavier Legrand and Alexandre Gavras
“Helium” Anders Walter and Kim Magnusson
“Pitääkö Mun Kaikki Hoitaa? (Do I Have to Take Care of Everything?)” Selma Vilhunen and Kirsikka Saari
“The Voorman Problem” Mark Gill and Baldwin Li

BEST SOUND EDITING

“All Is Lost” Steve Boeddeker and Richard Hymns
“Captain Phillips” Oliver Tarney
“Gravity” Glenn Freemantle
“The Hobbit: The Desolation of Smaug” Brent Burge
“Lone Survivor” Wylie Stateman

BEST SOUND MIXING

“Captain Phillips” Chris Burdon, Mark Taylor, Mike Prestwood Smith and Chris Munro
“Gravity” Skip Lievsay, Niv Adiri, Christopher Benstead and Chris Munro
“The Hobbit: The Desolation of Smaug” Christopher Boyes, Michael Hedges, Michael Semanick and Tony Johnson
“Inside Llewyn Davis” Skip Lievsay, Greg Orloff and Peter F. Kurland
“Lone Survivor” Andy Koyama, Beau Borders and David Brownlow

BEST VISUAL EFFECTS

“Gravity” Tim Webber, Chris Lawrence, Dave Shirk and Neil Corbould
“The Hobbit: The Desolation of Smaug” Joe Letteri, Eric Saindon, David Clayton and Eric Reynolds
“Iron Man 3” Christopher Townsend, Guy Williams, Erik Nash and Dan Sudick
“The Lone Ranger” Tim Alexander, Gary Brozenich, Edson Williams and John Frazier
“Star Trek Into Darkness” Roger Guyett, Patrick Tubach, Ben Grossmann and Burt Dalton

5 Reasons Men Should Groom Their Privates

5 Reasons Men Should Groom Their Privates
Men spend hours obsessing about grooming the hair on their head but tend to ignore their pubic hair.
It is only when they are going to have sex that they begin to groom their privates. The fact remains that ungroomed privates are not only a complete turn off, but are also unhygienic. Here are five reasons why men should groom their privates.
Cleanliness
Heat, sweat and bacteria form around the crotch and remain there for a long time if it gets entangled in the pubic hair. Trimming or shaving it off will help keep that area clean and free from any unwanted infections.
Makes the erection look bigger
Ungroomed pubic hair tends to hide your penis, which makes it appear smaller. Shaving away all the extra hair will make it appear at least an inch longer.
Looks healthier
A well groomed crotch looks healthy and clean. The cleanliness will ensure that you don’t have any infections or outbreaks and it will also keep your penis healthy. Besides, it will enable you to keep an eye on unwanted warts or rash.
Appears more inviting
A clean well groomed penis appears more inviting to your partner. Pubic hair can be a complete turn off for most women while performing oral sex. If you want her to go down on you, you need to groom your privates.
Can increase sensitivity during sex
The skin around the crotch is sensitive to touch. Shabby ungroomed pubic hair restricts direct contact to this sensitive skin. Shaving or waxing it off, will give your partner better access to this area, thereby making it a much more intense experience.


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UK: Boy, 14, charged with raping his mother




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A 14-year-old boy has become the youngest ever person to be charged with raping their own mother.

The teen is alleged to have committed the attack at the family home in Blackpool, Lancashire, last weekend.
The teenager, who cannot be named for legal reasons, appeared before District Judge Jeff Brailsford sitting at Blackpool Magistrates Court.

The judge remanded the 14-year-old in custody.

Judge Jeff Brailsford, sitting at the town’s magistrates’ court, called the alleged offence a "grave crime", the Blackpool Gazette reports.

Lagos: Man Hanged Himself Because His Wife Refused Him Sex



This is a story that happened last night.

An Akwa Ibom man who lives in kilo area of Surulere, Lagos hanged himself last night because his wife refused to have sex with him.
Neighbours said they over heard them quarreling and the man was shouting if you don't give me sex tonight i will kill you and  kill myself, suddenly he was seen chasing his wife from their apartment but later retreated when he couldn't get hold of her. Only for the woman to return and saw her husband dangling from an rope tied to a ceiling fan, before neighbours could rush in after she cried for help he was already lifeless.

On inquiry, the neighbours said this is not the first time the couple have been fighting over this issue, that in fact he attempted suicide few days ago over this same sex denial issue. His close friends who spent time with him at a beer joint just last night also confessed that he constantly complained to them about his wife denying him sex, some even advised him to look else where to satisfy his sexual urge rather than hurting himself.

His neighbours and friends testified that he was a jolly good fellow, that they can't understand why he will be having such a problem with his wife or even nursing the idea of hanging himself. They have been married for years with three lovely children. He was a driver to one Oga, but was a Commercial Motorcycle  (Okada) rider before, of which he set his bike ablaze to prevent police from impounding it following the ban on Okada in Lagos.

His wife is refusing to speak to anyone at the moment.

Nigerian Man Stabs Wife In US Over Alleged Infidelity

A jealous dad-of-two repeatedly stabbed his wife after finding out she was having an affair from her phone.

Oluwabusayo Abegunde, 38, found out his wife had been going out drinking and clubbing with another man after looking at photos and messages on her Blackberry.
He launched the savage knife attack just two days after Valentine’s Day as wife Esther Abegunde, 33, lay asleep. She had earlier told him their marriage was over and moved into the spare room.
Businessman Abegunde repeatedly stabbed her with a large kitchen knife while their two sons, aged eight and four, were downstairs in the family home on Hollybank, Droylsden.
The wounds punctured his wife’s left lung, partially severed a tendon in her right wrist and left her with other wounds to her chest and arm.
As she began to bleed to death Abegunde only agreed to call an ambulance after making her promise she would tell police and doctors she had inflicted the wounds on herself.
He also offered to kill himself - but only made a small cut in his own chest with the knife before emergency services arrived.
His wife was rushed to hospital where she survived - and a few days later told police the truth following the attack on February 16 last year.
Abegunde, said to have been a respected member of Manchester’s Nigerian community, was found not guilty of attempted murder at an earlier trial.
But the jury found him guilty of grevious bodily harm - and he has now been jailed for 12 years at Manchester Crown Square.
The court heard Abegunde, who makes a living running businesses in Nigeria, had been left ‘humiliated’ by his wife of ten years’ infidelity and sought revenge when she told him the marriage was over.
Sentencing, judge Honourable Mr Justice Kenneth Parker told Abegunde: “An attack on this nature upon a young woman and mother would cause psychological harm in the short and possible longer term.
“She probably thought at one point that the children were going to be left as orphans causing futher anguish.
“You paid no heed to the fact your children could have been confronted with the truly horrific sight of a greviously injured mother.
“The risk was obvious that she could die but you carried on and are fortunate indeed that she did not die and you are not facing a charge of murder.”

8 reasons why you should have sex EVERYDAY

There’s no doubt that an active sex life makes couples live a happy and longer life.



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1. Increases immunity: Studies have revealed that regular sex leads to higher chances of increased immunity in men and women. So if you are having sex daily, then you should know that it increases the level of immune-boosting antibody called immunoglobulin A, which helps you fight common illnesses.
2. Great form of exercise: Sex is a great form of exercise (no surprises there!) and helps burn those stubborn calories. Studies suggest that having sex regularly is as good as pumping iron in the gym. Also, sexual intercourse involves muscular movement of the thighs, legs, arms, shoulders and lower abdomen which equals to total workout of the body.
3. Brings a couple closer: If a hectic lifestyle is making you feel spaced out in a relationship, then sex can be the solution! Most couples, who find it difficult to spend time during the day owing to work commitments, can get the most out of their bedrooms. Interestingly, regular lovemaking brings a couple closer thereby strengthening their relationship.
4. Comfort factor: Do you still feel vulnerable in bed, especially when you’re naked in front of your partner? Getting comfortable with each other’s bodies is only possible when you indulge in physical intimacy more often. Studies reveal that couples who make love more frequently are likely to feel reassured about themselves in bed.
5. Makes you look & feel young: There’s no doubt that an active sex life makes couples live a happy and longer life. Research suggests that sexual interaction allows the release of endorphins and boosts the skin’s production of vitamin D, which in turn makes one look and feel young.
6. Acts as a stress buster: So what if you are feeling stressed at the workplace? Good news is that you can relieve stress and depression with the help of your sexual performance in the bedroom.  Yes, couples who make love regularly enjoy a more relaxed and happy life than those who have sex once a week.
7. Gives you better sleep: Having sex before hitting the bed is the best way to ensure a good night’s sleep. This is because the yummy exhaustion following intercourse is a natural reaction of the body which helps in inducing sleep. So after a hectic day at work, indulge in sweat-inducing sex to get some restful slumber.
8. It’s plain fun: Sex can be a fun exercise for couples who are in a committed relationship. So while physical intimacy helps the two of you stay connected, it also helps in adding some spice in your life. Moreover, experimenting in the bedroom with more than just vanilla sex can add that much-needed naughty element to your relationship.

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5 sexy tricks to boost your libido



black-couple-hugging 2Get physical…So encourage your partner to take up a fun exercise class with you. Or, you could simply take up walking, jogging or yoga to boost your sex drive. Doing these activities together will also enable you to bond with your partner.                                                                                                     

1. Get Physical Together: 
Studies show that 30 minutes of exercise can improvesexual health and boost self-esteem. So encourage your partner to take up a fun exercise class with you. Or, you could simply take up walking, jogging or yoga to boost your sex drive. Doing these activities together will also enable you to bond with your partner. Another method to boost a lagging libido is by doing kegel exercises, as they can help strengthen the lower pelvic muscles and help prevent prostate problems in men and incontinence in women.
2. Bring out the Lotion: 
Women should take a long leisurely shower and afterwards gently begin rubbing in your favourite lotion or body butter all over your body. Take your time doing this as this will make you more aware of your body and enable you to tune in to your senses and you are much more likely to reach orgasm, if you do this regularly.
3. Eat more Fruits:
Studies show that eating fruit can help boost your metabolism. So include fruit which are high in vitamin E as they increase blood flow in the body. Include fruit like kiwis, mangoes, bananas and pomegranates as they are loaded with antioxidants, which will not only keep you healthy but will boost your libido. So instead of your favourite dessert, include a bowl of fresh fruit in your daily diet.
4. Wear Red Clothes: 
If you want to boost your libido and get your man’s attention, wear red lingerie or a little red dress, because some studies have shown that the colour red not only boosts a woman’s confidence, but will also grab a man’s attention and boost his libido.
5. Tease Your Partner: 
Get your partner all hot and bothered by sending him/her sexy text messages all day long. Also, you could take suggestive pictures of yourself and send them to your partner, as this will boost libido hormones like dopamine, serotonin, and testosterone, and by the time you reach home, you and your partner will be ready to pounce on each other.
 








       

Lucky Couple Found $10m Coins Buried In Backyard For Years


A lucky couple literally struck gold when they found a rare coin stash worth an estimated $10million (£6million) in their back garden.
The pair, from California, were out walking their dogs when they uncovered the Gold Rush-era coins buried in the shadow of an old tree.
Nearly all of the 1,427 coins, dating from 1847 to 1894, are in uncirculated, mint condition, said David Hall, co-founder of Professional Coin Grading Service of Santa Ana.
David Hall, co-founder of Professional Coin Grading Service, poses with some of the gold coins (Picture: AP /Reed Saxon)
Although the face value of the gold pieces only adds up to more than $28,000 (£16,000), some of them are so rare that coin experts say they could fetch nearly $1million (£600,000) apiece.
‘I don’t like to say once-in-a-lifetime for anything, but you don’t get an opportunity to handle this kind of material, a treasure like this, ever,’ said veteran numismatist Don Kagin, who is representing the finders.
He added: ‘It’s like they found the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.’
Experts have no idea who stashed the coins at the back of the rural property where the anonymous couple have lived for several years.

 ‘Their concern was this would change the way everyone else would look at them, and they’re pretty happy with the lifestyle they have today,’ said chief numismatist David McCarthy.
The couple are apparently planning on selling most of the coins, found last year, on Amazon and will use the money to pay off bills and donate some of it to charity.
As almost all of the coins are in near-perfect condition, experts believe whoever put them into the ground likely did so as soon as they were put into circulation.
The coins were found along a path the couple had walked for years.
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Ugandan Newspaper Names 200 ‘Homos’ After President Signs Anti-Gay Law

Oh, Dear! Ugandan Newspaper Names 200 ‘Homos’ After President Signs Anti-Gay Law



A Ugandan newspaper listed Tuesday 200 people it accused of being gay, a day after the president called homosexuals ‘mercenaries’ and signing one of the world’s toughest anti-gay laws.

“Exposed!” the headline of the Red Pepper tabloid read, beneath photographs of Ugandans it said were gay, as well as reporting on lurid stories of alleged homosexual actions.
“Uganda’s 200 top homos named,” the daily newspaper added.
In 2011, prominent Ugandan gay rights campaigner David Kato was bludgeoned to death at his home after a different newspaper splashed photos, names and addresses of gays in Uganda on its front page along with a yellow banner reading “Hang Them”.
On Monday, President Yoweri Museveni signed a bill into law which holds that repeat homosexuals should be jailed for life, outlaws the promotion of homosexuality and requires people to denounce gays.

In 2011, prominent Ugandan gay rights campaigner David Kato was bludgeoned to death at his home after a different newspaper splashed photos, names and addresses of gays in Uganda on its front page along with a yellow banner reading “Hang Them” (Photo Credit: AFP)
In 2011, prominent Ugandan gay rights campaigner David Kato was bludgeoned to death at his home after a different newspaper splashed photos, names and addresses of gays in Uganda on its front page along with a yellow banner reading “Hang Them” (Photo Credit: AFP)
 Museveni said he could not understand how one could “fail to be attracted to all these beautiful women and be attracted to a man” instead and described in graphic details his particular revulsion to oral sex.
The signing of the law came despite fierce criticism from Western nations and key donors, including US President Barack Obama, who has warned that ties between Kampala and Washington would be damaged.
The bill will provide a stiff test for foreign donors, with Museveni warning Western nations not to meddle in the central African nation’s affairs, and that he was not afraid of aid being cut.
Last year the Red Pepper published photographs of retired gay British man Bernard Randall, taken from his stolen laptop.
Randall, who was then arrested on charges “trafficking obscene publications”, was deported last month.
Prominent Ugandan gay activist Jacqueline Kasha posted photographs of the newspaper’s front page on Twitter, warning that the “media witch hunt is back”.
Homophobia is widespread in Uganda, where American-style evangelical Christianity is on the rise.
Gay men and women in the country face frequent harassment and threats of violence, and rights activists have reported cases of lesbians being subjected to “corrective” rapes.

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Faces of Those That Tortured Two Women in Ejigbo Lagos

Police Parade Suspected Masterminds Of Ejigbo Market Women Torture


Police authorities yesterday paraded 12 persons and declared four others wanted following their involvement in the torture of three women at Oba Morufu International Market, Ejigbo, Lagos.
Force Public Relations Officer, CSP Frank Mba, who paraded the suspects before newsmen, yesterday, said some of the suspects were members of the Oodua People’s Congress, OPC, providing security at the market and  officials  of the market association who he said also extorted N50,000 from the victims’ father.
Mba gave the identities of the suspects as Isiaka Waidi, the Baba‑Oja of the market, who masterminded the dastardly act that culminated in the arrest, debasement, torture and extortion of the victims; Haruna Abdullahi and Buhari Yusuf, who mixed the concoction of pepper and alcohol that was applied on the bodies and private parts of the victims.
Others include Saheed Adisa, Lateef Tijani Ahmed Adisa, the Iyaloja Oloruntoyin Dauda, Adekunle Adenuga, Jimoh Busari and Azeez Akinosun.
According to him, operatives of the Federal Special Anti‑Robbery Squad, FEDSARS, led by Deputy Commissioner of Police, DCP Chris Ezike, who coordinated the arrests, are investigating the circumstances surrounding the death of one of the victims, Juliana Agoma, a Republic of Benin national, who was moved to Cotonou by her father where she subsequently died.
He said: “It would be recalled that earlier this year, the Inspector General of Police, M.D. Abubakar, in a move to ensure speedy delivery of justice in this case, ordered the immediate take-over of its investigation by the Force Criminal Investigation, Lagos Annex, from the Lagos State Police Command.
“Consequently, a team of crack detectives, led by DCP Chris Ezike, swung into action and conducted discreet investigation in line with standard best practices, during which the suspects, in connection with the matter, were arrested.
“The Police have also declared wanted the following suspects: Tiri, an alleged member of OPC who was captured in video footage and alleged to have stripped naked one of the victims, Ajoke Agoma, mother of the two other female victims in the presence of her husband; Otepa Oluranti, Akeem and Michael Abolore, whose whereabouts are yet unknown but who have been implicated in the heinous crime.
“The IGP has commended the human rights, civil society and Women Support Group as well as Office of the Public Defender, Lagos State Justice Ministry and all other stakeholders who assisted the police in this and other matters relating to human dignity, safety and security.
“He, however, called on general public to assist the Police with information that will lead to the arrest of the fleeing suspects.”
Victim’s account
According to Nike, 12, “That day, I accompanied my sister, late Juliana, to the market and we took N50 pepper, but the OPC men said we stole baby clothes. They stripped my sister, me and my mother of our clothes, robbed liquid pepper on our bodies.
“They mixed grounded pepper with dry gin in a bottle and poured it into our private parts. They also inserted sticks into our private parts while beating us.
“They kept beating and hitting my sister on the head until blood started oozing from her eyes and other parts of her body.
“My sister, Juliana, became very sick and was then taken to Tokpa, near Badagry border where a nurse attended to her at home, in addition to traditional treatment, but she later died.”
Account of victim’s dad
“It was the Baba Oja that insisted that we must pay a fine of N150,000 and after pleading they accepted N50,000 of which  N20,000 was paid that day.
“It was after the payment that they now tortured them until they became unconscious Later, my son, Kehinde, was harassed by the OPC men into paying the balance of N30,000. The torture lasted from about noon to evening of same day.
“After that, my landlord was asked to evict us. Our uncompleted house was demolished and we were chased out of the community same day.”

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